We all have stories we tell ourselves about who we are, what we can and can’t do and what we’re capable of achieving. These stories shape how we see the world and our place in it, influencing the decisions we make and the actions we take. Often, we get stuck in tales from our past, our perceived weaknesses, or things beyond our control. Before we know it, these stories become barriers we’ve built for ourselves.

How often do we catch ourselves saying things like, “I’m just not the type of person who does that,” or “I’ve tried before and it didn’t work”? These stories may feel comforting in their familiarity, but in reality, they can create invisible walls that stop us from reaching our full potential and give us an excuse to stay exactly where we are - even if that’s not where we want to be. 

But here’s the thing: most of these stories aren’t set in stone. They’re just interpretations, shaped by fear, doubt, or past experiences. What if we could change the narrative? What if, instead of letting these stories define our limits, we could rewrite them to reflect the possibility of who we could be?

The Stories We Tell Aren’t the Whole Truth

We don’t have to be stuck with the stories we’ve been telling ourselves. In fact, we can change them whenever we choose. It’s all about shifting how we see things - understanding that the current story is just one version, not the only version of the truth.

Take fitness, for example. Maybe you’ve told yourself, “I’m not a runner.” But why not reframe it to, “I’m not a runner yet, but I’m open to finding what works for me”?

By doing this, you’re opening the door to other possibilities. Perhaps running isn’t your thing, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find a way to stay fit that suits you. You could be someone who enjoys yoga, cycling, or simply getting outside for a walk each day. The key is being someone who values their health - not stuck on how it looks, but on your commitment to it.

Challenging the “I Can’t Because” Stories

Another familiar one: “I can’t because of X.” Whether it’s family, work, or health issues, there’s always something that seems to stand in the way of our goals. It’s easy to let these challenges become excuses. And yes, life can throw us curveballs - but we get to decide how we respond.

It’s not about waiting for the “perfect” moment (spoiler: that doesn’t exist!). It’s about making the best of the moment you’re in right now.

Instead of saying, “I can’t because I’m too busy,” think about it this way: “I’m busy, but I can still find 15 minutes to do something good for my health.” That small shift makes a big difference. Now, instead of seeing “too busy” as a roadblock, it’s just part of your reality to work with.

Reframing Your Story for Growth

What we’re talking about here is reframing - looking at your story from a different angle. It's about seeing the opportunities hidden within the challenges. When we view life through the lens of growth, we start realising there are always ways to move forward, even when things aren’t ideal.

If you’re dealing with health issues, for example, instead of thinking, “I can’t exercise because of my condition,” how about reframing it to, “I can find an exercise routine that works with my body’s needs, and I’m willing to get creative with it”? That’s you rewriting your story of resilience.

Or, if consistency is something you struggle with, try changing the narrative from, “I never stick to anything,” to “Every day’s a fresh start, and every attempt teaches me something new.” You’re still moving forward—even if it’s in small steps.

Your Story, Your Power

Often, the stories we tell ourselves are influenced by what others think - family, friends, or the images we see on social media. But those stories don’t need to define you.

Start noticing when you tell yourself a limiting story. When you do, ask yourself:

• Is this story really true?
• Could I view this situation differently?
• What’s one small action I can take today that gets me closer to where I want to be?

By shifting your focus from what’s holding you back to what’s possible, you start to see more opportunities for growth. You stop seeing yourself as stuck and start realising you’re always evolving.

So, What’s Next?

Rewriting the stories we tell ourselves isn’t always easy, but it’s so worth it. And you don’t have to do it all on your own. If you’re looking for support in reshaping your own story and creating a healthier, more balanced life, I’m here for you. Together, we can turn your limiting beliefs into the fuel that propels you forward.

Remember, the next time you catch yourself thinking, “I can’t,” ask: “What if I could?” Start telling a new story, and who knows what possibilities lie ahead. Let’s do this together.